At what age is it ok to leave your kids at home alone?

There comes a time in every parents life when they need to duck out to the shops or attend an important afternoon meeting, and they think "Can I leave my kid at home without them burning the house down?".
It's a difficult question, and as we took to the forums to quiz those who've been there before, there was a strong theme among many of the answers: It depends on the child.
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In terms of the law, each state is slightly different. According to raisingchildren.net.au, only Queensland mentions a specific age, drawn from the law which states: "A person who, having the lawful care or charge of a child under 12 years, leaves the child for an unreasonable time without making reasonable provision for the supervision and care of the child during that time commits a misdemeanour. Maximum penalty is three years imprisonment."
Of course, we are talking within the realms of reason and we'd hope imprisonment isn't on the cards when just popping down to Woolies to get some emergency toilet paper.
So if you're wondering if it's ok to start allowing your child to stay home after school rather than heading to aftercare, or are just after some parent-to-parent reassurance, here's what our members had to say on the topic:
"Minimum age for flying alone (as per my knowledge) is 12 years, so I'd say not before that. But if I am stepping out just for 5-10 minutes to go next door or running to the grocery store near by - I'd imagine 7 years or older should be fine. Can't say for sure since my bub is still younger than that. The only time I leave him home alone is when I step out to throw garbage and know I'll be back in less than a minutes (and still check twice that I have the keys and phone)." - bh member Peach Perfect
"For me it depended on the child and trusting my instinct. My older son was mature for his age and I trusted to leave him alone after school. I started by letting him walk home on his own when he was just 7-years-old . At that time I was home with my newborn baby and school pickup time was always hard for me as that's when my baby used to sleep. He was 10 when I started working full time , so he used to stay at home alone after school , but I had a neighbour keeping an eye on him at intervals. For my younger son he is almost 11 years and I can't trust him to be alone, let alone walk/bus on his own . I don't feel he is ready to be left alone . So I guess it depends on the child and how mature and ready they are to stay home on their own." - bh member MoonlightSak16
"I agree that it depends largely on the maturity of the child. I was able to trust all of my kids to be at home alone around the age of 10 when I'd step out for a bit. I rarely go anywhere overnight, and have not yet been put in a position to consider leaving any of the kids home alone overnight. I don't think I'd feel comfortable to do that until they were late teens." - bh member IndieAna
"Personally I think it depends on how confident, mature and trustworthy the child is and what back ups are in place if there was to be an issue of any kind. It also depends on what kind of area you live in. My eldest was always very confident and very mature for her age. She once went on the train to Brisbane by herself when she was 14. Other parents were horrified that I allowed her to do that but she came to me and showed me how she was going to get to where she wanted to go and she had it all worked out with times and cost, etc. I figured if she was able to do this then she needed to have the opportunity to do this. I'm also that mum that let her travel around the world on her own when she was 17. She paid for and booked the trip all by herself and other than one small hiccup which I sorted out for her... she had a blast and has often thanked me for being so supportive of her." - bh member Meedee
" If something goes wrong, [it's good to make sure] the kids know what to do, who to call. The kids must know what to do if someone knocks on the door or phones. Have rules and make sure the kids know the rules." - bh member misfortune8
"This is hard to answer, but when my son was 10 I did it couple of times, but not long hours. I made sure that he know how to open and close all the locks and windows in the home and how to use the keys. I instructed him not to answer the phone or the door." - bh member Angage
"Oh gosh that is a hard question! These days because of all the craziness I probably wouldn't let mine until they became teenagers. Although I trust my now 10 (nearly 11 year) old I am too scared something would go wrong and I'd be stressed out of my brain. When I was a child I stayed home around the same age as my daughter is now, but the world was a much different place in the 90s." - bh member ThisIsMe
"About 12 if it is just to pop to the shop, but if it's alot further away and for a longer time, I never left mine until they were 14." - bh member Wendy1965
Have you been thinking about letting your child be home alone? Did some of our members answers give you comfort?
43 Member Comments
Great to read the BH members thoughts on this. It really does depend a lot on the maturity of the individual child.
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I love that this article show cases the BH members' knowledge, experience and wisdom. More articles like this one, please!
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I decided 12 for my twin boys as I was separated from my husband and working full time, so there was a hour or sometimes 2 that I did leave them. I had a neighbor who kept an eye out and that they could go to if they needed assistance. The main problem I had was how much they ate when unattended. One managed a lasagne on his own after school so the rest of us had eggs on toast that night !!!
Things do go wrong and it can be a simple trip over that results in a very bloody tooth through the lip. A weird landline phone call that spooks them or just wanting mum if not feeling great.
We all know our own kiddies best and it was funny my 3rd child preferred after school care and was happier there.
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Sam, I congratulate you for coming up with this idea, and writing this article. This is one of the most interesting topics I have read on BH in a very long time. It is practical and relevant.
Thank you also to the members who contributed!
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Have no children. When we were little, there were no issues....as the town was very safe and we lived in houses that you do not need to lock. Plus we were left alone to go anywhere and do anything in the town since when we could play and could walk back home
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Wow to this article! (and I'm glad I don't live in qld! my gosh!) My girls were always trustworthy too and I'd be able to duck out for bits and pieces etc if I had to.
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I found this to be an interesting thread to read on the forum :)
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Wow my mum would have been jailed lol. My mum left me home alone all the time from 8 onwards. I was very sensible from a young age though and actually loved having the house to myself. I have a 9 year old and 4 year old (boys). Definitely wouldn't be leaving either home alone any time soon. It really does depend mostly on the childs level of maturity so it is hard to answer this question. Has to be assessed by the individual child and their behavior.
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Haha. Yes. My mum worked all the time. I was 8 and my brother was 5 when my grandma left home. So we were left alone at home most of the time.
Life is a bit different now, but I am sure not every family can afford child care or nanny until their children turn 12.
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I know some kids are more sensible than others and a good parent knows their own kids and if they can cope etc.
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Wow QLD jail time for max 3 years! Surely that would be leaving a YOUNG baby or toddler at home for hours on on end or something like that where clearly the child is not capable of looking after themselves not just leaving a 10 year old home to duck out to the shop or something?!
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Im assuming the 3 years is most likely for serious negligence or neglect and not a quick duck out to the shops.
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You'd hope so but these days you never know what in their opinion is considered as a long period of time.
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Lovely to read this article.
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This is all really good information. I dont have any kids but I remember when I was younger my parents wouldn't leave us home alone until we were around 10
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Oh, and I must add, back then we knew our neighbours really well, and had a good relationship with them. Where we are living now, we wouldn’t know our neighbours if we fell over them!
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It was a long time ago, mine are 27 and 29 now. But I can recall popping out to the shops when they were around 12ish. There were rules, eg they must stay inside the house/backyard. No swimming in the pool. I wouldn’t have left them for an extended period at that age. I honestly can’t remember how old they were when we were confident to leave them and go out for a few hours. I do agree that it depends on the maturity of the child.
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